Marriage Conflict Resolution

"A stitch in time saves nine".

Many a times marriage conflicts never seem to be resolved. This situation leaves couples and their families arguing about the same thing over and over again. Most conflicts can be resolved if a consistent process is followed.

While these steps may seem time consuming at first, in the end they are saving countless hours of exhausting arguing and avoiding. In addition, allowing an issue to go unaddressed causes it to eventually grow into something unmanageable.

Begin the discussion in a neutral territory such as a restaurant or park time limit focus on  problem, remain calm and agree to disagree if needed. Decide on no name calling, belittling of ideas or manipulative behavior.

Each should describe the problem as they see it. Then look for a larger issue and any underlying fears and needs. Pick one battle at a time.

Most importantly, allow time for each party to speak and listen.

Resolving conflicts strengthens and binds two people closer together. This process is time consuming in the beginning but well worth the investment.

Initially focus on keeping it positive, being creative and staying in the present. Be careful to withhold criticism and instead welcome unusual solutions. Next, focus on turning problems into possibilities, improving on ideas and combining concepts.

Then emphasize common ground & make clear agreements on small things. If necessary, be willing to forgive or ask for forgiveness.